Have you ever considered eloping? Eloping may not be the most traditional way to get married but for my husband and I, it was the perfect way to get married. Let’s talk about 3 reasons to elope and a bonus 6 things to consider before making the decision.
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A special credit to Purple Planet Music for the background track, https://www.purple-planet.com.
Have you ever considered eloping? Eloping may not be the most traditional way to get married but for my husband and I, it was the perfect way to get married. Let’s talk about 3 reasons to elope and a bonus 6 things to consider before making the decision.
For more information, check out www.rootandriseblog.com and find the podcast on Instagram @rootandrisepodcast and Breanne @breazieboo
A special credit to Purple Planet Music for the background track, https://www.purple-planet.com.
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Today, we are talking about 3 reasons to Elope and 6 things to consider before making that decision
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Have you ever considered eloping? Eloping may not be the most traditional way to get married but for my husband and I, it was the perfect way to get married. What are the reasons to elope and what should you consider beforehand?
When discussing marriage, I remember calling my husband (or fiancé at the time) and telling him how stressed I became thinking about all of the details needed to be planned and how I didn’t really want to go through that. It was distracting for me. I wanted to plan a marriage and not just a wedding. We felt that our energy would be best spent on building a solid foundation for our marriage in this transition than to plan a party. Read about how to plan a marriage here.
Reasons to Elope
Things to Consider Before Eloping
The Only Problem That We Ran Into
We did hurt some feelings choosing not to have anyone involved. We chose to not involve anyone because of the experience we wished to have with it being just us. We held the belief that we would be hurting everyone’s feelings equally instead of trying to pick and choose who to invite and hurting some people more than others. When we were entertaining inviting people, it was too hard to keep the numbers down. We wanted our parents and siblings. And then, of course, our grandparents. But then what about the people we loved who lived near the Olympic Mountains? What about the family we were extra close with? Maybe we could just invite one friend each.. but then how can you just choose one? It became a much larger group than we intended.
We decided to elope alone and have a close family get together afterward to include them in the celebration. For our family and closest friends, we included them by letting them in on our “secret” and made sure to send out photos from the day and let people know how it went, especially before posting anything on social media. Despite all of our efforts to let our loved ones know how much we wanted to include them, I still lost a best friend in the process.
How to Handle Someone Who Doesn’t Support Your Decision
You can try to explain it to them first. Let them know this decision has nothing to do with them and is not a reflection of your feelings with them. They may have pictured a wedding for you, but a wedding isn’t right for everyone. My dream marriage began on top of a mountain, surrounded by deer, with just my husband and I. But, if they offer to fly in any way or ask to be the officiant, it can be difficult to keep setting those boundaries. It’s important to keep reminding them that this decision has nothing to do with them.
If they cannot support your happiness, that is their loss and shows their true intentions. I ended up losing a best friend because she wanted to be a part of a wedding that never happened. She couldn’t accept my decision and when I look back on it, I honestly have no regrets. I am sad to have lost someone that I was close to. However, I still would not change a single thing about that day, it was absolutely perfect. In the end, the old saying “those who matter, don’t mind and those who mind, don’t matter” rings true.
Deciding to Elope
There are many reasons to elope! When making this decision, look deep into your heart to decide what is right for you. Be sure to discuss openly with your partner, as their opinion is just as important. We were both 1000% on board for it and that made it easy.
Also, enjoy this secret, whether it’s a big secret or includes some others. I loved it when my husband and I just had this little secret to ourselves. No one was able to give us opinions because we didn’t need them. We knew what was best for us and it was so relieving to just make that decision without much judgment, apart from the one friend.
Everyone has an opinion. Do what makes you happy. It’s not about them, it’s about you and your partner and what you want for your special day.
Make the day what you want. Get married on a mountain, a beach, in Ireland, or where your first kiss took place. Or, get married at the courthouse. Do you. This is your big day and all that matters is how you want to look back on it. Hire someone you know to officiate or don’t. You can have photographers or not. There is no right or wrong way to do it, just your way.
What are your reasons to elope? What else have you considered before deciding to do so? I’d love to hear your thoughts!
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